Have you ever gone through a situation that brought grief?
I’m certain that grief is a universal experience. Have you ever known somebody that kept going through the same grief? I know plenty of people that are ‘insane’. I’m even guilty of this myself. Creating the unfortunate experience of going through an unwanted situation repeatedly has been sort of my forte. Fortunately, it’s been through these misfortunes that I’ve learned lessons on learning lessons.
Here are the key take-aways:
– If you haven’t changed a behavior, you haven’t learned a lesson.
-Lessons are easy to learn if you have the right methodology.
-Lessons are everywhere! (You just have to remember to look)
What I’ve learned is that there’s the hard way of learning lessons and there’s the easy way of learning lessons. Let’s take a look at how to avoid making learning the hard way a habit.
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Does learning lessons the hard way make us hard-headed? No! It makes us insane.
Constantly making the same mistake can be a bit maddening. It’s almost like we are consciously choosing pain and suffering. This can be especially painful if we are aware of the mistake as or immediately after we make it. If you want to take a step towards productive lesson learning, it’s time to change the behavior. You can’t expect to keep acting the same way about things and get different results. Let’s get into the process of learning lessons the easy way.
Easy lesson learning focuses on minimizing same mistake repetition. Avoidance implies that you have a new habit/action to replace an old one. This 3 step process is designed to help you avoid repetitive mistakes.
Step 1: Identify a need and the solution.
The best way to identify a mistake is to be aware of how you feel. Grief and pain are the most common indications of a mistake. Don’t find relief if neither are present, though. These emotions are not the only indicators of a mistake. With that in mind, always be mindful of feedback. Feedback is great because you find a mistake and may find the solution to it. Once a mistake has been revealed, devise a way to avoid it in the future.
Step 2: Quickly implement the new behavior.
This can not be expressed enough… learning isn’t learning unless there is a behavior change! Act out your solution as soon as you can. Immediate action with the wound of the mistake still fresh is even better. The pain of it still lingering can be motivation for implementing the new action. If you don’t have the luxury of a freshly made mistake to work with, rehearse the solution anyways. Repeat until it’s almost second nature. This will create the conditions of you being more liable to act through the new behavior automatically.
Step 3: Internalize the new behavior
Internalizing the new behavior is almost an extension of implementation. Rapid implementation makes internalization possible. The best internalization happens through repetition and finding new context to put the behavior in. Just ask yourself, what are some similar mistakes you’ve made before? The answer to that question is where you’ll be able to re-contextualize this new behavior.
Want to know something crazy?
Most people lack awareness of two things. The first is that lessons are everywhere. The second is that people’s problems can be solved by learning these common everyday lessons. Before I get into another rant about the mindless masses, let me tell you why lessons are everywhere. This earth contains so many events happening simultaneously, knowledge is just waiting to be imparted on us. We just have to look. People have multitudes of different experiences everyday. We goto the store. We goto work. We walk our dogs. We see other people.
What if you were walking on the sidewalk and you observed a person crossing the street. Now, what if that person got hit by a car? What would you do if you wanted to cross the street in the future? I’d bet that if this wasn’t already a habit of yours, you’d look both ways before you cross. Well… lesson learned.
I once almost lost my temper with a child. I learned what ‘pushed my buttons’ and how to cope with stressors.
I once cleaned trash up but missed other trash. I learned the importance of slowing down and becoming focused.
Lessons are everywhere. Through learning truths, quickly implementing them, and re-contextualizing them, we have the capacity to solve every problem in our life. I can take the smallest lesson and with a little re-contextualization make major impacts in my life. Lessons are everywhere and everything is connected.