Play Actively. Win Big.

Practice is the heartbeat to success.

Continual practice is the cornerstone of any skill. Going through the repetitions of action reward you with an automation in action.

My question to you is this…

How many times does an action need to be repeated until it is internalized? How long does it take to make something your own so you can refine it?

The answer is not that long.

Although practice is the best way to build ability, the quality and success rate of practice vary, depending. This variance is an effect of how deeply engaged someone is with something. The less engaged somebody is with an action, the less likely they retain and understand. Whether they have trained themselves to focus for periods of time or learn to keep a tempo of active engagement, individuals with a capacity for active engagement always get more done.



The importance of engagement can not be expressed enough. With it being one of the keys to a high success rate, it’s no wonder that it is stressed in different education psychology books. We can look at it like this… A student that spent 100 hours practicing engaged only 30% of the time is matched by a student that spent 50 hours with twice the engagement! The second student will be able to easily out perform the first student in less than 2 hours more of practice.

Here’s a little remembered fact about our brain that most of us know, but fail to prevent.

When the brain goes through an action enough to have the response automatic, we gain an unconscious competence and switch to autopilot. Although unconscious competence is a positive, the dangers are very often overlooked. Autopilot if left unchecked can cause complacency and even regression. This is because the brain wants your body to remain in homeostasis or it’s baseline of activity. Whenever the brain sees an opportunity to save energy, it takes it. If we become mindful and take time to do some maintenance on a skill, autopilot will be friend more than foe.

How can we maintain engagement ?

In all cases, dilating your perception will ground you in the present moment for engagement in whatever you’re doing. A focus on broadening the acuity of your senses will trouble shoot your mind going into autopilot or straying off topic.

Imagine that you are a soldier in the trench behind enemy lines. Would you be caught up in your head wondering what the next episode of ‘Law and Order’ is going to be on? I highly doubt it. You’re brain will know what could happen and cause your senses to be almost hyper aware. Every brushing of a tree, every slight movement in the horizon, and every beat of your heart would be felt. This is a very extreme case of perception dilation, but I hope you’re beginning to get an idea.

Achieving perception dilation is possible through sensory orientation. This simply means to orient your focus on the senses. Enrich them by taking conscious control of what you are objectively perceiving outside of your body. This is also a mild form of meditation.

Trust that your self will know what the right action is.

Although I am emphasizing to trust in your faculties and not actively ‘think’ about what you are doing, it does not dismiss you from active thinking. Thought is going to creep in at any rate. It’s only natural that we guide it through strategy. This is where foe can be friend with going into autopilot. We can ‘shift gears’ in an automated practice and let it ‘run at a different speed’. Much like Lebron James dribbles while running at intense speeds.

Go deeper into engagement of an activity by diverting focus. Ask yourself questions about the input. Find prior knowledge stored in your mind that can relate. Randomly express yourself.

Let’s put this in an example. We’ll say that you’re in a conversation with someone of the opposite sex that you’re attracted to. Becoming engaged and present to the moment is the best way to provide the best experience for the both of you. By dilating your perception and selectively broadening what stimuli your senses take in, you can focus more on what the other person is saying. Their words will become much more clear and rich to you. You could read the subtleties of their facial expression. You’ll be completely immersed in the interaction and the rest of the world may seem to melt away. Being present in the moment may require a lot of focus, but it is the best way make a connection with someone and leave that voice in your head behind.

Now what if that voice does come up? To keep up the momentum of being present, it’s best to avoid getting caught up in a dialogue with it. Accept that it’s telling you whatever. Acknowledge it and maybe even use it to add fuel to your conversation. Being consciously in the present moment , or even just being engaged in anything does, at times, require focus. This is especially so when we find an activity that doesn’t really stimulate us.

If we do something that isn’t particularly pleasing or naturally engaging, then we can very easily fall into autopilot mode. When this happens focus and engagement become an active process. No longer will you feel the natural victory of passive engagement. Focus as an active process tests your will in ways you never thought you could imagine.



When you begin to test your brain with focus, your brain can test back.

Some of you may already know what I’m talking about…

Students sitting in a classroom. Their ‘teacher’ droning on in a monotonous manner.

” A conjugation of verbs defines what tense the verb is acting upon.”

There may be some kids that want to “learn” this information, but can’t do so because they aren’t engaged. Their brains would be delivered messages of safety and boredom. Nothing stimulating comes from a dull environment, it’s a natural thing for kids to provoke some sort of vitality in life themselves.

What about the child that remembers the value in education? How do they cope?

Our brains rarely ever want to leave homeostasis. When we have ‘a good thing going’ it’s a biological reflex to disengage from our environment because a lack of pressure on us. We can be left to our own devices while meeting the minimal needs of the environment.

For the average citizen, focus takes some measurement of energy. The thought of putting focus into action causes a natural resistance within the body. Because the brain is telling the body that it’s in homeostasis, it will try to convince the mind the same thing and to resist the notion exerting any more energy. The impulse to resist an urge may prevail.




When the body resists because our brain has become too evolved, a complex form of complacency has wrenched it’s vice upon the beings that can’t fight the VIRUSES the mainstream has fed them. It’s not their fault that humanity as a race currently evolves faster than their capability. The average attention span of a student 18-22 years of age is about 25 minutes, give or take 5. This is at least in my experience. The only variation in time would be on the possibility that they are being stimulated artificially. If their instructors provide a very engaging presentation of content, their ability to influence the student’s attention span could prevail.


Students can practice organically through using ‘stimulation techniques’. This could be through growing focus through engaged practice or using perspective to create a deeper connection. Having multiple strategies of non-resistance and understanding obstacles can enhance your success rate.

Unless we have a track record of retaining prolonged focus, we will most likely fail. When life brings resistance to that which matters, find alternate ways to focus on what matters through diversions of the brain.

When the environment gives us grief, most of the time we give it grief back. It’s a biology thing. Because modernized 1st world countries have mostly evolved beyond random violence and complete destruction, our bodies have stopped evolving as much as our brain. Stimulation isn’t what it used to be. We get to enjoy the dramas of society, command information, and to grow ourselves.

In skill acquisition…


We can use different Stimulation Techniques to peak our focus, engage the depths of our senses, and move past obstacles without resisting.

Actualization occurs through the enlighten behavior we have obtained through overcoming obstacles rather than resisting obstacles.

Pursue experience and add depths to your practice through applications of focus by overcoming the obstacles that cause your body to resist focus.

Use non-resistance to overcome mental and emotional obstacles.

Build focus and engagement through mindfulness and sensory orientation to overcome physical obstacles.


I’ll give you a really quick what if scenario and then move in to committing yourself to enlightenment by non-resistance.


Reading is a very important skill to have developed as a self-directed learner. With powerful reading tools, comes a naturally higher information processing rate. To really understand a problem, assessing the different types obstacles must be identified. The physical obstacles of reading are adjusting your muscles to allow your eyes to focus on a physical depth clearly. That could cause constraint in the head that lead to aches. A mental obstacle would be handling your short term memory to focus on the present and assess the demands of reading. The brain constantly codes/decodes information to cope with reality. An emotional obstacle would be dealing with the stressors that inspire me to slow down and feel like my energy levels are depleted. This can influence mental obstacles severely.

You could build focus by teaching your body how to keep the muscles tensed/relaxed in a specific way for periods of immersion reading.

Through sensory orientation you could go through different visual dimensions by adjusting the width and height of your peripheral vision.

These examples of activities in reading address specific obstacles that cause resistance. Alternate and discover new ways to build your flow in life. Rather than put power into going against an obtrusion, be like water and encompass. When a strong enough flow of water coming down a mountain streams towards the valley it creates a river. The stream meets many stones and moss, but continues to slowly erode it’s obstacles. The object of non-resistance is to create enlightenment.

In skill acquisition, enlightenment is mastery of mastery.

In whatever you do, knowing your path is of mastery can inspire behaviors that indicate so. A master on his path fully assumes constant growth and innovation. The most important trait he contains is commitment. Continuous commitments of focus and engagement will give you the track record of success. Start with small investments of fully engaged mastery and exponentially build.

The best commitments are comprised of many different actions you can take to engage yourself in what you want to gain enlightenment on. If we build habits of doing something actively for at least 15-20 days, what we feel comfortable with will transform homeostasis. The most difficult situation to be in is when you begin a new habit, take a break after 2 days and fail to return to for over a week. This is because when you remember the motivation you had of initially started doing something like consistently go to the gym, you may feel remorse for not following through. Focus on establishing a rhythm rather than going for it all at once will prevent you getting burnt out on it and getting trapped in an emotional obstacle.


The Main Lessons


Commit yourself to being enlightened and using non resistance to discover endless alternate solutions to obstacles.

Become engaged to dilate your perceptions.

Trust in your faculties and act through them, not set to autopilot and disengage.



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Metrics- a method of measuring something, or the results obtained from this



What is the purpose behind a metric?

Having a quantifiable measurement stimulates growth. When a metric is placed on an activity in whatever your skill may be, it will keep you well-informed about your progress. How would Usain Bolt know he is the fastest if he’s not timing his races? Measuring progress tells you about the past and future, and whether you’re on the right path or not. Collection of data will help you always be aware of when you reach your target.

By keeping a simple target, you’ll drive performance and continue to evolve.

What are a few effective metrics and how can we apply them?

In skill acquisition, you need to measure how much time you’re putting in, the level of completion of the activity, your investment of emotion, how well you’re adhering to your plan and the results of your practice/training. These 5 simple things will give you all the information you need to know about your progress. So, let’s look at how we can apply them.

Keep a journal of all the metrics in skill acquisition.


Time- To keep track of how your using your time is to monitor your productivity. Every skill set has a subset of skills that need to be mastered. Delegate a certain amount of time to mastery of that specific activity. When the prescribed time period is up, observe the level of completion for the activity. If you haven’t mastered your desired level, give it more time. At the point of satisfactory results, you’ll be able to know how long that specific sub-skill took and you’ll have an idea of how much time it will take to go deeper into that skill in the future.


Completion- Monitoring your level of mastery in a skill is imperative. This is the ‘pulse’ of skill acquisition and you need to always have your fingers on it. Deconstruct the skill and identify key steps in mastery. Write them down and practice, practice, practice. Record your progress over time.


Emotion- The major barrier in skill acquisition isn’t intellectual- it’s emotional. If we are putting effort into something that isn’t yielding the results we want, our emotions are going to drop. Journal your emotions mindfully. Recognize the patterns of your emotions as you progress in your path to mastery. Grief and negative emotions are normally indications that something needs to be improved.


The Plan- Take the time to make a plan. Follow it and measure how well you stick to it. Always make your plan adaptable, though. Life is dynamic. Your plan should be, too.


The Results- Keep a log of your results. There will always be results that are of higher quality than others- measure that as well. When you do log the results, be sure to note what caused those results to happen. Through mindfulness of cause, effect, and quality, you’ll be able to repeat the same results over and over again. Always be process oriented for maximum exposure.


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Get Into The Mind Of A Self-Directed Learner

Every archetype has their own view of the world. Optimists view life in terms of the glass being half full. Narcissists believe the universe revolves around them.

Let’s take a look into the reality of a self-directed learner.

Self-directed learners see the world in terms of possibilities. Where others see problems, we see opportunities for growth. The world is a veritable pearl patiently waiting to be plucked from the oyster that houses it. Set deep in the contents of our mind are models of the world that we often access to discover new truths and adapt to this frequently changing world.

Even if only a few of our core beliefs were adopted by the common individual, their design for life would drastically change. If you hope to actualize your greatest potentials go ahead and watch the video below.



These paradigms are only a glimpse through the looking glass.

Self-directed learners possess hundreds of models to sort through for prosperity. These ways of thinking are characterized by curiosity, drive, and creativity. Evolution has taken an interesting turn in technology used to support the human race. Our primitive thoughts and tools have graduated to become much more complex modes of being and doing.

Because adaptationists are constantly growing, today’s insights are tomorrow’s old news. If the past is objectively looked upon, measurable results can be seen over the span of our existence. Where fire kept us warm and gave us light; we now use electric lamps and heaters. Psychoanalysis replaced lobotomies. Evolution is inevitable. Where are you while it’s happening?

Self-Directed learners meta-evolve or evolve evolution. Intelligent design has been recognized and emulated.

Step into the skin of a self-directed learner. Create methodologies that hack away the time it takes for growth.

Learning is never over. Processes can always become refined and scaled. Continue your education.

Paradigms of a Self-Directed Learner

-Learning is constant

-Lessons are everywhere.

-Your brain is designed to evolve

-Everyone has experience you don’t

-Successful models work better together

-Self-Directed Learners actively seek truth

-Self-Directed Learners are never afraid to be wrong and frequently admit it.

– Intelligence and Education is the ultimate good. It can never be depleted

– Mastery is never over

– Live a life of your own design

Feel free to comment below and add your own. We are always welcome to new ideas.





Lesson Learning The Easy Way

Have you ever gone through a situation that brought grief?

I’m certain that grief is a universal experience. Have you ever known somebody that kept going through the same grief? I know plenty of people that are ‘insane’. I’m even guilty of this myself. Creating the unfortunate experience of going through an unwanted situation repeatedly has been sort of my forte. Fortunately, it’s been through these misfortunes that I’ve learned lessons on learning lessons.


Here are the key take-aways:

– If you haven’t changed a behavior, you haven’t learned a lesson.

-Lessons are easy to learn if you have the right methodology.

-Lessons are everywhere! (You just have to remember to look)

What I’ve learned is that there’s the hard way of learning lessons and there’s the easy way of learning lessons. Let’s take a look at how to avoid making learning the hard way a habit.


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Does learning lessons the hard way make us hard-headed? No! It makes us insane.

Constantly making the same mistake can be a bit maddening. It’s almost like we are consciously choosing pain and suffering. This can be especially painful if we are aware of the mistake as or immediately after we make it. If you want to take a step towards productive lesson learning, it’s time to change the behavior. You can’t expect to keep acting the same way about things and get different results. Let’s get into the process of learning lessons the easy way.









Easy lesson learning focuses on minimizing same mistake repetition. Avoidance implies that you have a new habit/action to replace an old one. This 3 step process is designed to help you avoid repetitive mistakes.

Step 1: Identify a need and the solution.

The best way to identify a mistake is to be aware of how you feel. Grief and pain are the most common indications of a mistake. Don’t find relief if neither are present, though. These emotions are not the only indicators of a mistake. With that in mind, always be mindful of feedback. Feedback is great because you find a mistake and may find the solution to it. Once a mistake has been revealed, devise a way to avoid it in the future.

Step 2: Quickly implement the new behavior.

This can not be expressed enough… learning isn’t learning unless there is a behavior change! Act out your solution as soon as you can. Immediate action with the wound of the mistake still fresh is even better. The pain of it still lingering can be motivation for implementing the new action. If you don’t have the luxury of a freshly made mistake to work with, rehearse the solution anyways. Repeat until it’s almost second nature. This will create the conditions of you being more liable to act through the new behavior automatically.

Step 3: Internalize the new behavior

Internalizing the new behavior is almost an extension of implementation. Rapid implementation makes internalization possible. The best internalization happens through repetition and finding new context to put the behavior in. Just ask yourself, what are some similar mistakes you’ve made before? The answer to that question is where you’ll be able to re-contextualize this new behavior.


Want to know something crazy?

Most people lack awareness of two things. The first is that lessons are everywhere. The second is that people’s problems can be solved by learning these common everyday lessons. Before I get into another rant about the mindless masses, let me tell you why lessons are everywhere. This earth contains so many events happening simultaneously, knowledge is just waiting to be imparted on us. We just have to look. People have multitudes of different experiences everyday. We goto the store. We goto work. We walk our dogs. We see other people.

What if you were walking on the sidewalk and you observed a person crossing the street. Now, what if that person got hit by a car? What would you do if you wanted to cross the street in the future? I’d bet that if this wasn’t already a habit of yours, you’d look both ways before you cross. Well… lesson learned.

I once almost lost my temper with a child. I learned what ‘pushed my buttons’ and how to cope with stressors.

I once cleaned trash up but missed other trash. I learned the importance of slowing down and becoming focused.

Lessons are everywhere. Through learning truths, quickly implementing them, and re-contextualizing them, we have the capacity to solve every problem in our life. I can take the smallest lesson and with a little re-contextualization make major impacts in my life. Lessons are everywhere and everything is connected.


Cross The Streams! Mix Learning Styles for Maximum Potential

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Everybody has a preferred learning style. Whether is through being a hands-on aka kinesthetic learner or through hearing someone talk you through the steps aka auditory learner, each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. It’s time to tune up your styles and strengthen your methods.


First, let’s get the different learning styles ‘out there’ for analysis and interpretation. Then we can get into the suggested activities and applications.

Just do us one favor and ask yourself what do you know about learning styles before you get any further.


Essentially there are 7 different learning styles:

Visual (Spatial)- image based, using pictures and spatial awareness

Auditory (echoic-musical)- spoken word preference, sound cues, and music

Verbal (Linguistic)- Words in speech and text

Physical (Kinesthetic)- preference to bodily senses and touch

Logical (mathematical)- Use set rules or logic with basic reasoning

Social (interpersonal)- preference to learning with people, teachers, or group study

Solitary (intrapersonal)- preference for working alone, self study, and discovering on one’s own


With the styles in your working memory, try to get them deep into your long-term memory through encoding the information.

Here’s a quick tip on encoding to the long term memory.


-On a piece of paper or word document, define each style one-by-by in your own words. Then redefine it 3 or 4 more times. Use 2 to 3 words each. Remember, aim for comprehension.


Now it’s on to the fun stuff!

Here’s the activity we suggest:

Mix two styles in at least four different pairs.

I’ll give an example of a mixed pair.

Lets cross the physical with the verbal. We can go through a quick mindfulness exercise in just 5 steps.

Step 1. Bring your awareness on a hand. Focus on feeling the whole surface.

Step 2. Verbally state your actions. In example, say “I’m feeling the surface of my hand. I feel the back, and I feel the front.

Step 3. Let your words be your guide to shift your awareness all around your hand with more intensity. Tell yourself “Now, I’ll bring my awareness to my pointer finger. Now I’ll move it to my wrist. Now I’ll bring it to my middle finger.

Step 4. Ask yourself questions to gauge where you’re at. A few examples would be, “How well can I feel my hand? Is my awareness shifting with my verbal cues? How can I make the sensation more intense?”

Step 5. Repeat.

Voila! There is a simple example of mixing learning styles. Here’s a quick question to ask yourself.

How else can I mix learning styles? And, what result will the combinations do?




Here’s a link to make an inventory of your learning styles!

Below is a quick video that goes deeper on the concept of combining learning styles and a few examples of application.



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Find Your Maps, Find Your Potentials

Education technology is growing and evolving. We are rapidly building the intelligence age from the information age. We’ve begun building awareness for what makes us the intellectual and extraordinary beings that we are.

One of the most enlightening concepts that has touched my existence as someone that’s waking up from the complete takeover of my daily automatic response is discovering that my mind has ‘mapped out’ reality. It’s put together a system of interpretations and responses on how the world works and how I should behave in the world.

An even bigger epiphany was in the realization is that my maps are not the territory.

But, more on that another time. I want to discuss your mental maps and how you can make them physical through methods like concept mapping and mind mapping.

Let’s start off with mental maps. Everyone has models of reality. These models are made up of our theories of the world and are built through the scaffolding of cultural influences, media, experience, and modern education. Although, they are meant to guide us just as physical maps do, they can often be distorted.

You and I and everybody else bring these maps with them every where they go. We often view our maps as complete and correct, which in turn only solidify their usage. But, what happens to the brash American from the deep woods of the south when he arrives in Japan?

His loud and narrow minded views would surely be cause for alarm in a foreign land where the map differs significantly. That’s just a ‘map’ of behaviors, too.

Do you think an amateur golfers mental map of how he plays differs from someone like Tiger Woods? Just food for thought.

Before I get into physical maps, check out this video on how your mental maps and information processing coexist.



If you want to improve your mental maps, it’s time to discover what they consist of and how it affects your operations.

The language of the brain is primarily in images. Symbolism is a crux in humanity. The cross, the skull, Santa… All of these invoke images that you can put words to. They stimulate our emotions and guide behaviors.

I want to suggest to you that an image in the brain is a lot like a compressed file in a computer hard drive. I know we aren’t computers, but bare with me. These information packets can include data that’s readable, encrypted, and sometimes even work like executable programs. When transferred to our Short Term or Working Memory systems, they cause all kinds of actions in us.

So how can we manipulate the maps?

We can run the programs, observe our actions, and tweak the code to have different outcomes. Another great way would be to physically map out different topics.

Mind maps and concept maps are especially powerful. They also have many more advantages than just finding out what your different maps consist of. They double as study tools, mnemonic devices, creativity explorers, memory builders, and problem solvers.

Mind maps give you the ability to completely organize subjects and ‘unzip’ information that’s been compressed into the images your brain uses. They allow you to create new connections that you weren’t able see before.

Here’s an article I found on Mind Mapping that you can greatly benefit from.

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More Than Just ‘I’, Meta Experience

In my previous article, I gave a little insight on the developmental stages and healthy functions of the ego. The purpose of it was to give knowledge on how you operate as a cognitive functioning human, or metaknowledge. In this article, I’ll explore the experiential or meta experience side of your ego so you can discover your path to self learning and developing a healthy functioning ego.

In order to go through the experience of transcending our previous self, it’s important to know about your different ego states,how to observe your ego, how to surrender and strengthen good states, and how to develop a transcendent intention. Although I did mention in my previous article I was going to feature a video from a personal favorite self-development teacher, I decided not to because the language and analogies in the video aren’t quite consistent with the language and analogies I use in my videos. Put simply, he’ll let things get rated R while I try to keep things PG13.

With that said, let’s get to it. I’m going to drop a little meta experience on you by explaining your ‘filters’ of your self-reality, the power of observing these filters, changing the filters, and, of course, the intention behind of your filter.

As pointed out in part one of this topic, there are different levels of development of the ego. Each stage has it’s own template of how it filters reality in relevance to ‘I’. Each template consists of different ‘ego states’. Many people believe that when they have a thought about themselves that the “I” or self-image portion is contained in a unified existence. In reality, their self image is broken up to what best suits their needs at the time. Each fragment, momentary ‘I’, or ego state filters reality through a set of emotions, self beliefs, beliefs about the world, and a reference to previous experiences; and suggests for you to act as it sees fit.

In almost every instance, ego states focus one’s attention on narrow segments of reality. This sets up the framework to be absorbed into an identity like ‘dumb blonde’ or ‘workaholic’. A new sense of “I” develops as different concepts are integrated and differentiated, and a new repertoire of ego states are experienced. Through dissociation, ego states are able to take turns leading the person.

Here’s an example…

Do you remember recess in grade school? When I was a child, we used to have a half hour to have what ever fun we could. I’d always make a point to monkey around on the jungle gym, then play kick ball. I’d do all of this while screaming as loud as my lungs could handle. I would pump myself into a state of complete fun mania. As soon as recess was over, we’d always go straight back to class work. Personally, I’d always have trouble turning my focus to class work. I was still in ‘play mode’. I didn’t want to do math work. I was having trouble effectively dissociating myself from my playful mania state and moving into a focused academically oriented state.

How can we create a more permeable boundary between ‘states’ so we can allow our self to easily shift modes of action?

I want to suggest through observing and surrendering your ego.

Being in different states subsequently inspires different behaviors. Most of the time, we have a level of unawareness towards. People tend to simply let their emotions and thoughts act through them rather than taking a step back and viewing things for what they are. Some people do to a degree in their life, but the average person does not. They lack the mechanism to monitor themselves in real time.

Here’s an example. Currently, I work at an arcade. We have a what’s called a ‘soft play’ area. It’s pretty much a giant play place for kids 5 through 12 with padding to make it soft. In order for these children to be able to play in it, they have to be of proper age and be wearing a wristband. A couple days ago, there was an adult in soft play with her toddlers that were about 1 to 2 years old. None of them had wristbands, either. I informed her the rules of soft play and asked her to come out. Since there were multiple toddlers in the play place a couple of infants had escaped her and managed to get further into the structure.

The mother instantly began an argument on why her her kids should stay in and have fun. When most people begin to hear why they’re wrong, they’re immediate response would be to argue back and give reasons why they’re right. This is especially so if they’re in a position of authority. I will admit to begin informing of the rules to enforce that the mother was wrong. But, instead of being reactive I focused on my intention, which was getting them out. I monitored myself by sensing that my auto-response system was taking over and chose a course of action that would be more aligned with my intention.

Sharing with them that it would be unfair to other children by letting her children remain on the play place because the wristbands that the other children have were paid for. I asked the mother how would she feel if I let other children do an activity for free that she had to pay for. When I informed her that if she got her children wristbands then she still wouldn’t be able to get in the structure, she reacted with anger. Rather than reacting with more anger, I observed her emotion and didn’t reflect it.

Eventually, after more explanation and relation to the mother. I got her out and to follow through with staying out.

Observing ego is about being present minded and consciously coordinating yourself. By taking a mental inventory of how I’ve reacted in previous experiences, I’m able to take control and take responsibility for how I behave. Through self-awareness, self-monitoring, and self-control; I’m able to comprehend why and how I act and discard any ego state that doesn’t work toward my intention in life.


Having a transcendent intention is the essential ‘why’ in creating a new self. The transcendent intention is a concept I learned from Eben Pagan. It’s the greater reasoning for behaviors and skills that you pursue. For example, becoming better at communications transcends just being able to just convey a message more effectively. It leads to greater implications in your life that integrate into almost every aspect of you life.


Here’s a quick recap:

-Create an awareness of all of your ego states and their behaviors they articulate.

-Disassociate yourself from any single ego state to unify a complete self.

– Identify your intention of the moment

– Observe ego through identifying present ego state, monitoring behavior in real time, and guiding activity towards your intention.

– Be proactive, not reactive.

– Reflect upon relative experience. Make a mental inventory of what worked and what didn’t work

– Accept and take personal responsibility.

– Find your transcendent intention.